Tag: life

Posted in Changing the society

Failure!

Posted on by Tirthankar Roy

When you fail, everyone around you starts reminding you of the mistakes you have done over and over and over again.

It’s not like you don’t know that already; but people like reminding you of that because at that time you can’t reply. Or maybe you don’t want to respond. Because you already have had so much of these thoughts already played out in your own head that people’s reminder of the same only builds up more frustration and anger within you.

It makes you feel like you have made all the wrong choices there were to make. Like you did the worst you could. As if you don’t realise the mistakes. As if you are carefree.

But the truth is, you are already drowning thinking about how could you possibly fail? How could you make so many wrong choices? How? And just how?

These things make you numb. These things create sadness. These things make you feel like a loser. And people’s reiterations confirm that in your head – that you FAILED!

But have you though? Have you given up? Have you lost hope? Have you run out of plans? Have you run out of options? Have you lost the spark? Have you lost the experience? Have you lost the ability? Have you lost the zeal? Have you lost the gratitude? Have you lost your way?

If not, then you’re not done yet! Not yet!

Buckle up! Because things are going to take a turbulent turn.

‘Cause when a ‘failure’ comes for what he deserves, he snatches it!

You’re not a failure. You are just delayed MAGNIFICENCE!

Posted in Changing the society

Life

Posted on by Tirthankar Roy

Life hasn’t been easy
And I know it wasn’t meant to be
But somewhere deep within
I want it to so be!

That was my fault
That was my downfall
To want anything so easy
Should never have been my call

Life is tough
It is meant to be that way
But I can’t be soft
Because that’s not a winner’s pathway

Life has punched me down
Right down to my knees
I’m scratched and torn down
Nowhere can I find peace

But hold on
I can still get up
Crawl, walk and even run
Because bruises are meant to be healed
And life is meant to be won!!

Posted in Changing the society

Past

Posted on by Tirthankar Roy

There are things that you do in life that you think you can let go, but you CAN’T. And sometimes it haunts you every now and then and you desperately try to find a way to forget it or get it out of your system. But again, you CAN’T do that either.

It’s so hard to live with regret and guilt because it eats you up from the inside and you just can’t bear it. A time comes when you just can’t hold on any longer. And that’s when something disastrous happens.

But the truth is, it’s not about forgetting the past. It’s about understanding what was done earlier and not repeating the mistakes that were committed.

Try to forgive yourself for the mistakes you have done. Because no one else other than your own image of yourself matters the most. So try to forgive yourself and you will see the world changing around you.

The past will never leave you. So better be friends with it. Use it to your advantage and rule the world.

Cheers!

Posted in Relationships

How to maintain long distance relationships

Posted on by Tirthankar Roy

I hate the stars, because I look at the same ones you do, without you

-Unknown

Why long distance relationships break easily?

You all will know the answer to this question. It’s obviously that one of the partners may get bored with the relationship or they lose trust on their partner and suffer from many misunderstandings or they cheat on their partner. It sounds really simple when we read it, but it’s fucking tough in reality. To bear the pain of that is immense.

So comes the next question…

What to do then?

The most important aspect of long distance relationship is trust. No matter what happens, we have trust our partner. We have to trust that he/she is truthful to us in every step and never thinking of betraying us. It’s plain and simple. Because there is no alternative. Let me tell you why…

When we start doubting the other person, we ourselves bring into our own lives a lot of tension and frustration which over the course of times becomes overwhelming and we start to hate our relationships.

This is extremely unhealthy. This is the trigger that ultimately leads to breaking up. We must remove the idea of doubting our partner completely from our mind. Just trust. We may have fights and bad moody days, but should never fail to trust that our partner loves us a lot.

This allows us to stay happy and this is directly proportional to the happiness of our partner. This is how we bring joy into the relationship. Even though far apart, we still need to have the connection.

The other important factor: Patience

We need a lot of patience in long distance relationships. It is sometimes too much for some to bear. But we need to hold on. If our partner is really special for us, if that person is really “The One” for us, then we should hold on. Let’s hold on to our patience, because no big thing in this world happens on the snap of a finger. Not everyone is Thanos after all. Every great things demands a lot of patience, so if it really something great for us, then we must be.

The moment we lose patience, that is the moment bad things start to happen. We become restless, we lose control, we say and do stuff that hurt them, and some words one spoken can never really be taken back. So let’s keep our nerves calm, because someone special is waiting for us.
But what if they actually betray us??? What then?

Let me make on thing really clear, if we give your best in a relationship and our partner still leaves us, betrays us and cheats on us, then we have nothing to do. Either their desire from us was much more than what we could deliver or they would have left you even if we were with them. They were meant to leave us.

So let’s make sure we give them our best, make them feel like they are the most special person in our lives. Then if they still leave us, then we know that we were not the reason for that. The fault is not with us. This is how we can console ourselves and move on.

So let’s love and be loved. #AS #STAR

Trust and be Patient

Cheers!!