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Failure!

Posted on by Tirthankar Roy

When you fail, everyone around you starts reminding you of the mistakes you have done over and over and over again.

It’s not like you don’t know that already; but people like reminding you of that because at that time you can’t reply. Or maybe you don’t want to respond. Because you already have had so much of these thoughts already played out in your own head that people’s reminder of the same only builds up more frustration and anger within you.

It makes you feel like you have made all the wrong choices there were to make. Like you did the worst you could. As if you don’t realise the mistakes. As if you are carefree.

But the truth is, you are already drowning thinking about how could you possibly fail? How could you make so many wrong choices? How? And just how?

These things make you numb. These things create sadness. These things make you feel like a loser. And people’s reiterations confirm that in your head – that you FAILED!

But have you though? Have you given up? Have you lost hope? Have you run out of plans? Have you run out of options? Have you lost the spark? Have you lost the experience? Have you lost the ability? Have you lost the zeal? Have you lost the gratitude? Have you lost your way?

If not, then you’re not done yet! Not yet!

Buckle up! Because things are going to take a turbulent turn.

‘Cause when a ‘failure’ comes for what he deserves, he snatches it!

You’re not a failure. You are just delayed MAGNIFICENCE!

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Life

Posted on by Tirthankar Roy

Life hasn’t been easy
And I know it wasn’t meant to be
But somewhere deep within
I want it to so be!

That was my fault
That was my downfall
To want anything so easy
Should never have been my call

Life is tough
It is meant to be that way
But I can’t be soft
Because that’s not a winner’s pathway

Life has punched me down
Right down to my knees
I’m scratched and torn down
Nowhere can I find peace

But hold on
I can still get up
Crawl, walk and even run
Because bruises are meant to be healed
And life is meant to be won!!

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A Lesson Learnt!

Posted on by Tirthankar Roy

Coming back to my blog after almost 1.5 to 2 years, it feels great. But I’m not feeling great at all. The reason is, I have learnt a tough lesson and I wanted to share it with you all.

“Never keep high expectations from something you don’t know much about”

Recently, I started trading in stock market (Options Index) and I got hold of a broker through one of my friends. At that point of time, I was doing quite well financially. Thinking trading would bring me some quick money, I jumped at the opportunity. Although I wasn’t expecting too much returns. With a capital of ₹14,000 I started trading.

Fast forward 3 weeks, and I have ₹1,70,000 in my DEMAT account. Life was over the moon, confidence was touching the sky. I felt like I could be a crorepati in months.

Fast forward 3 days, I had ₹20,000 in my DEMAT account.

I lost ₹1,20,000 in 3 days and had withdrawn the remaining to furnish my newly bought car.

For 2 weeks I didn’t trade. But a part of me became dependent on trading. So I came back, determined to earn more and save this time.

Fast forward to current date, I have ₹4000 in my DEMAT.

In these 3 months, I became so dependent on trading, that I was expecting to pay my bills through its income. And now I have literally nothing.

I just realised, that the thing I love doing (Teaching) and the thing I am a professional at (Counselling) have taken a back seat, just because I was expecting something huge from a niche I wasn’t even aware of 3 months back.

The message of this post is to let you remind that you all have a special talent or skill that you have been working on throughout your career. And suddenly you get distracted by something that can bring you quick money or give you instant fame or whatever fancy it is in your life. And then you fail. You fail because you start expecting too much from a field that you know nothing about.

If you ever face that situation, STOP!! Take a moment, think, give your skills priority and take the step. Learn the new field, practice and then if you feel you’re good enough, take the LEAP!!

I have made a mistake, but I believe I’ve learnt something more valuable than the money I lost.

Yes, I’ll come back to trading. But this time, with knowledge. Easy money doesn’t last. But thankfully for me, I still have ₹4000 to save 😉.

So, as I said, NEVER KEEP HIGH EXPECTATIONS OF SOMETHING YOU KNOW DON’T KNOW MUCH ABOUT!

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The ultimate goal!

Posted on by Tirthankar Roy

In our lives, whatever we do, has only one ultimate goal. And this goal doesn’t vary depending on the kind of the deed we are doing.

Be it earning a lot of money, or wanting to be the best doctor, or even the desire to be the best parent; the ultimate goal is to be HAPPY!

We all have many wishes in your lives, desires that we would love to turn into reality. I have a desire to buy a Lamborghini Gallardo. But what will buying a Lamborghini ultimately give me? It’s happiness. Thus, happiness is the key to our desires.

We never desire of doing anything that will make us sad or angry or anxious. We always choose to do the things that make us happy.

So, instead of keeping our lives biggest goals as earning a lot of money, or being the greatest player or any other field you might be interested in, I think it’s important to keep the ULTIMATE GOAL of our life to be Happy. Because once being happy is our goal, we will always choose to do things that will ultimately lead us to success.

Suppose you love playing guitar. And this gives you the greatest joy. So, spend most of your time playing the guitar. The result will be that you will be an awesome guitarist and consequently a successful one.

Thus, we can achieve success by following what doing what gives us happiness.

Be happy!

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Today’s Goodness #15

Posted on by Tirthankar Roy

Life is full of good and bad stuff. We cannot avoid the presence of either of the two. So it’s really important that we enjoy both.

Life is not about suffering. It’s about having the ultimate pleasure one can have. So let’s start enjoying the hard times because that’s how we can convert even those worst moments into enjoyable parts of our lives.

Let’s be happy!

Cheers!

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How to fight through tough circumstances?

Posted on by Tirthankar Roy

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like you are completely out of your comfort zone and no one around you is supportive of what you are doing? Yes, we all have been there. This is the time we mostly quit and set ourselves back to our comfortable lifestyle.

But this is not the right thing to do. And we all know it. So how to fight through that? How to be motivated during those situations?

Well one of my friends once told me a quote, which I have posted in my Instagram account, which says, “Never say Why Me? Always say Try Me!” And this is such a motivation booster that we don’t realise until we actually utter this from our mouth.

Just try this – Whenever you are in tough circumstances, just look around yourself, smile and tell the Universe “Try Me!!” And things will drastically change. You will feel more confident and even thrilled to be in a situation like this because now you can show your true power to the Universe.

So why does this happen?

Whenever we say stuff like this, we become more aware of our strengths and forget our weaknesses. And that is what makes us perform better and be more productive. There is this famous saying that always focus on your strengths and not weaknesses. And this is the ultimate deal. If you want to win, concentrate on what you can do best and execute it.

That’s how winning is done!!

P.S. – A special thanks to my friend Samyak Aditya for providing me with the theme of this post.

Cheers!!

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How to avoid making decisions under extreme excitement

Posted on by Tirthankar Roy

Most of the time we make decisions that cannot be logically explained, because we made them when we were excited about something. We may be too happy or too much angry over something and make a decision that results in a regret of a lifetime. This is something that we need to avoid at all times, so that our decisions lead us to a path that we do not repent taking.

This is a simple method that I learnt from one of the greatest sitcom the TV shows HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER (2004-2015). This is so simple that some of you may avoid it altogether.

In this show, Tracey tells Robin to close her eyes and take 3 deep breaths before making a decision (she wanted to run away from her own marriage because she could not bear the pressure). Then Robin took 3 deep breaths with her eyes closed and when she opened them, she knew what to do (she got married that night)!

So what does it actually do to us? When we close our eyes and take deep breaths, we calm our mind and allow it to logically think through the situation. If the mind is clouded by pressure, anger, excitement or anxiety, the decisions will never be the right ones.

And believe me it works. I do this every single time I am under some external influences or even if internal. This is the simplest technique that can help you make some of the best decisions in life –

JUST CLOSE YOUR EYES… AND TAKE 3 DEEP BREATHS!

Cheers!!