The major concern for most of the people in a relationship is that they have a lot of fights. And this is very very common. Some fights are small and couples get over it very soon, while others are really complicated and sometimes end up breaking up the couple.
Here I am going to share a way by which everyone can avoid having fights in a relationship. But before that, there are two criteria that you need to fulfill before following this.
- You need to make sure that your partner is the most important part of your life. If you think they are important enough for you to give it your all in the relation, then this is for you. But if you are just having a time-pass sort of thing, then you can leave the post right now. It’s not for you.
- You need to let go of your ego. Plain and simple. If you think that the first point is applicable to you, then I guess your partner is more important than your ego. So, let it go.
Now we can move on the solution. Here it is:
Learn to say ‘Sorry’.
It’s a real cliche right? Well it’s a cliche for a reason. It works. Let me explain.
The Verbal Explainer
To be able to say sorry is a sign that you have moved ahead of your egoistic complications
It doesn’t matter what goes wrong in a relationship. Whether you are a guy or a girl, say SORRY. Fights start when either of the two in a relation does something wrong. So, what I am trying to convince you is you should say sorry no matter whose fault it is. It may be your fault, in which case, you MUST say sorry without any question. Or, it may be that your partner is wrong. Well, in that case as well, learn to say sorry. Take it all on your shoulders.
Now you may ask, “WHY THE FUCK WOULD I DO THAT??? IF I HAVE NOT DONE ANYTHING WRONG, WHY SHOULD I APOLOGIZE?”
Well, the main matter is not about apologizing. It’s about self realization. Why do you think fights happen? It’s when your partner does something wrong and you start showing your rage against them for doing something that you didn’t like. Don’t show your rage. Apologize instead.
So how does it work?
When you apologize when it’s not even your fault, your partner will automatically realize that it was their’s. Because you can hide your mistakes from the whole world, but not yourself. Your partner may realize and at occasions may not confess it to you. But when you keep on doing it over and over and over again, then your partner will realize it and you will see a drastic change in your lives, how the fights have reduced and you two are having nicer lives together.
It’s all about putting your loved one ahead of your ego. Because your ego can result in you losing something that might the most precious gift life has given you. So, start giving priority to people who are really close to you, and keep you fucking ego on the side.
P.S. : I am in a relationship for 2 years now, and we have never been in a fight even for a single time. We both follow this, even without letting each other know. Sometimes I do it, sometimes she does. So trust me. It works.
Good luck.
Cheers!!
The Verbal Explainer 